Friday, December 29, 2017

2017's backlash against women speaking up: 14 big examples

We are ending 2017 with an as yet unfinished conversation about sexual harassment and what it does to silence women. For many of us, this is a welcome and long-overdue conversation. But before you start rejoicing, listen to what actor Meryl Streep says will follow:
Meryl Streep isn’t convinced that the current conversation about sexual harassment in Hollywood will lead to an immediate cultural shift. 
“I see it leading straight to a backlash,” she said during a panel discussion at The Washington Post offices Thursday. She’s not entirely pessimistic, though. Eventually, she says, change will come; it just might take some time. 
“I don’t think we move in an easy trajectory towards an enlightened future,” she said. “We’re gonna hit the wall on this one soon.”
That backlash is already in progress, which should surprise no one. I see 2017 as a full year of backlash against women speaking up publicly, and not just about sexual harassment. The proof is in the speeches and what happened when they were given. I started out to do a more typical year-end  list of significant speeches by women throughout the year, and found that the speeches by women I consider most important in 2017 all have something in common: Every single one represents an effort to silence women speakers in some way, whether by interrupting her, mansplaining, not taking her comments seriously, using procedures to stop her speaking, trolling her with criticisms and threats, blaming and shaming her, and more.

That was 2017's version of backlash, backlash against the near-success of the United States in almost electing a woman president, and against the power unleashed in the Women's March which occurred on the day after the new U.S. president's inauguration. Classics scholar Mary Beard has said, "It is still the case that when listeners hear a female voice, they don’t hear a voice that connotes authority; or rather they have not learned how to hear authority in it." But this time, the hints of that authority were strong...and so has been the reaction against it.

Virtually all of these women, in addition to continuing to speak out, have publicly labeled the backlash for what it is, and that's something that any woman speaker should get used to doing, since there will be more backlash to come. I decided to arrange the speeches chronologically so you can see how the year progressed for women speakers. It's difficult to imagine a similar list for male speakers, isn't it? That's white male speaker privilege in action, public speaking style. I hope that by collecting this list, everyone will have a chance to see how frequently women's speaking is a case of "girl, interrupted."

So does this qualify as a "best of 2017" list? I think so. These were speeches given under duress and threats, but they are forceful, persuasive, and even poetic. They certainly meet our bar for being famous. But best of all for our readers, each one is a stellar example of how to handle difficult  and challenging speaking situations. I think we'll be seeing even more of those in 2018, but here's a look at how that played out this year:
  1. January: Meryl Streep's Golden Globes speech was given in the early days of the new U.S. presidential administration and before the Women's March. She devoted a high-profile lifetime achievement award speech to condemn the new president. The backlash began with criticism from the none other than the newly elected president himself. At this moment, it was a rare act of defiance--but because it was prominent and first, its impact was stunning. Though an extemporaneous riff, it's worth study by speechwriters, so compact and focused is this speech.
  2. January: Ashley Judd's spoken word poem performance at the Women's March -- the largest single-day protest in recorded U.S. history -- had to overcome a huge obstacle before she could speak: Figuring out how to stop Michael Moore, one of the few male speakers, from continuing to hog the mic so long that he wound up with the most time of any speaker. At a women's march. She took the stage, mic in hand, introduced herself and kept going. It's a bravura performance, easily the most lively and well-received of the day's speeches, featuring the work of a young poet. And yes, the backlash was intense.
  3. January: Hawaii Rep. Fukumoto at the Women's March in her home state used this rally and speech to make public something that happened to her in private. A Republican leader of the state legislature, she had expressed dismay over the new president's words and approaches, but was told she needed to silence herself. The speech makes clear why she did not choose to do that, at a high price: She lost her leadership role and later switched political parties, but held her ground and her seat.
  4. February: Elizabeth Warren's silencing in the U.S. Senate came as a surprise "rules enforcement" procedural power play while she held the floor. She was entering into the record a letter critical of the new nominee for Attorney General of the United States. The Senate leader abruptly forced her to stop, citing an arcane rule; later that evening, male Democratic senators read the same letter without interruption, making clear that this was discriminatory behavior. Warren left the floor and headed for Facebook Live, where she read her entire statement to an audience far larger than any that would have seen the limited broadcast of the Senate debate.
  5. February: California State Senator Janet Nguyen's silencing was over a tribute to a late former state senator who'd been an activist during the war in Vietnam--her home country--supporting the Communist government that persecuted her people. She rose to make this unpopular point about the popular senator who'd just died, and was stopped, first by a procedural objection, then by being hustled away from the microphone by security guards before she could finish.
  6. April: Minnesota Rep. Hortman called out white male colleagues in the legislature when she realized they were leaving the floor when women--especially women of color--were speaking, effectively silencing their female colleagues by denying them an audience as the men chose to go play cards in an anteroom. And because she called it a "white male card game," she was met with calls for an apology...which she refused to give. Consider how different this legislative battle over women's voices was because a woman was in charge.
  7. June: U.S. Senator Kamala Harris got interrupted by male colleagues twice in two weeks in the Senate--while her male and white colleagues were allowed to speak unfettered. In this case, insults were used to try to silence and shame her: She was labeled political, discourteous, and, yes, hysterical for insisting on her right to speak.
  8. June: Arianna Huffington got mansplained at the Uber all-hands meeting in the worst possible way: The meeting was on fixes for the company's sexist culture, and Huffington was announcing the appointment of another woman to the board, when a male board member interrupted and suggested that appointing one more woman just meant "more talking."
  9. June: Anita Sarkeesian on the panel from hell at VidCon gives us at once an inside look at what happens when women are trolled, live, while they try to speak on panels--in this case, with row upon row of organized opposition intent on disrupting speech--as well as how Sarkeesian, among the most-trolled women speakers, has begun to address it in real time.
  10. August: U.S. Representative Maxine Waters's "reclaiming my time" used a perfectly proper House floor rule to let a non-responsive witness know that his talking without answering was not going to reduce her allotted speaking time. It became a rallying cry and also could be your new favorite phrase to use when you get talked over in a meeting next.
  11. August: Susan Bro: "They tried to kill my child to shut her up" was the eulogy this mother gave when her outspoken daughter was mowed down by a driver during the Charlottesville, Va., protests this year. Bro's speech served as a chance for her daughter's voice to be heard by a wider audience than ever--or, as she said, addressing herself to her child's killer, "you just magnified her."
  12. August: Taylor Swift's harassment testimony gave every woman who's brought harassment charges forward a new template for how to answer leading questions in court (or elsewhere): fiercely. The questions were the typical type, intended to blame and shame the victim and thereby silence her complaint, or at least establish her lack of certainty. Not so here. Her direct responses--like "He grabbed my ass"--were offered without apology, and she wasn't afraid to correct her questioners. She won the symbolic and actual case, too.
  13. September: San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulín Cruz's speech, "We Are Dying Here," did what mayors do when their cities are laid flat by a disaster: Ask for help from the federal government. But unlike other mayors in similar circumstance, this woman of color was dubbed "nasty" and as exhibiting "poor leadership" by none other than the U.S. president, and ignored by him when he went to Puerto Rico to meet for local officials. She keeps speaking up despite the insults and shaming tactics.
  14. October: UK Prime Minister Theresa May's interrupted Tory conference speech was interrupted by a planned, elaborate, ideal-for-the-cameras stunt that came early enough in the speech to ensure that that's all the coverage was about, on social and traditional media. A ploy to weaken her status in the party, the interruption may have been the most outrageous of our examples this year.
(Wikimedia Commons photo of the Women's March on Washington)

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Thursday, December 28, 2017

Our top 10 public speaking posts for 2017

According to the most-read posts on this blog in 2017, readers are concerned about the many situations in which women are silenced and how to counter. But you're also just as concerned about how to improve your speaking, whether it's figuring out how to prepare better, or how to emulate one of the most popular TED talks. That's the mix of most-read posts this year, a combination of the personal and the political when it comes to public speaking. Take a look at what your fellow readers thought were our most important posts:
  1. What linguists think about "um:" Guess who gets punished for using it? turned to linguists when the New York Times perpetuated the myth that um should be eradicated from your speech – and the linguists pointed out a particular disadvantage for women in this debate.
  2. When a man hogs the mic at the Women's March documented how Michael Moore spoke longer any other individuals at the March, even though prominent women speakers were interrupted and told to wind up their remarks quickly. Actor Ashley Judd came up with a masterful way to stop Moore and let the program continue.
  3. 10 questions to make you a more resilient speaker in 2017 was our list of resolutions for the year, in the form of questions to ask yourself as you set goals. How would you answer them this year?
  4. Silencers: In appearance v. content for women speakers, guess which wins? In this year of backlash against women speakers, their wardrobes did not escape criticism, and in some cases, focus on their wardrobes served to silence their messages.
  5. When the male moderator won't let the lone woman panelist speak highlighted an especially egregious example of a nearly all-male panel and its impact on a brilliant woman scientist was ignored for the majority of the proceeding, and mansplained for the rest.
  6. 39 lies, myths, and mistaken notions speakers tell themselves is a collection of the myths speakers use to describe themselves or their process when I am coaching that. Do you use any of these?
  7. Why speaker coaches think you should spend more time preparing. You hear it over and over speaker coaches: the more time you spend preparing, the better your talk will be. But preparation is almost always the thing that speakers give short shrift. Find out why the coaches disagree.
  8. Women and power? The double standard of the severed head builds on an article by classic scholar Mary Beard Trump' s use of a violent image of Hillary Clinton being beheaded as Medusa,  in comparison to a similar image that came under fire when comedian Kathy Griffin imitated it. The first image caused no outcry; but when when a woman used it, she had to apologize and it nearly ruined her career.
  9. What made this one of TED's most popular talks in 2016? breaks down a popular talk about meditation and bad habits so you can see some of the basics of what goes into a popular talk at this popular conference.
  10. Want to boost conference attendance? Add women speakers pokes at something that's always bothered me: why women have trouble getting on the program at most conferences, while women's conferences draw record attendance and profits. And conferences that make a point of boosting attendance by women see the results. Try it in 2018.
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Wednesday, December 27, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Kamala Harris's silenced Senate questions

(Editor' s note: No, it's not Friday, but the hiatus did not let me publish this key speaking moment of 2017, so I'm using the last week of the year to catch up.)

When a few of her Republican colleagues attempted to silence U.S. Senator Kamala Harris for the second time in as many weeks during Senate intelligence committee hearings this June, the incidents could have been read simply as an attempt by Republicans to protect members of their own party. But the media and the public quickly noticed a key little detail: Senator Harris' male and white Democratic colleagues were allowed to carry out their questioning without being admonished.

Here are a few of the tweets that appeared during the hearings:
Republican Senators Richard Burr and John McCain, who interrupted Harris' questioning of Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein and Attorney General Jeff Sessions, may have wanted to shut down Harris to prevent damaging revelations about the U.S. presidency from coming to light. Because she was a woman, however, they reached for some time-worn tools to try to silence her. It's worth taking a closer look at these tools here, since they are used consistently against women speakers.
  • Women who speak up risk being called "rude." During Harris's questioning of Rosenstein, she was reprimanded by Senators McCain and Burr in a very specific way when she tried to get a "yes or no" answer out of the deputy attorney general. See if you can spot it in Burr's remarks, coming around the 2:06 mark of this video. Men often say they prefer direct speech to equivocation. But when a woman like Harris is direct, that quality can often be labeled as "rude" or "discourteous." It's worth noting that Democratic Senators Ron Wyden and Martin Heinrich were similarly direct in their hearing questions, but were not reprimanded for a perceived lack of courtesy. (Heinrich was interrupted once, by McCain.) It's also worth noting that during the Sessions hearing, the attorney general complained that Harris' questioning style was making him uncomfortable, which suggests that he felt she was violating some rule that required her--and no one else at the hearing--to be pleasant to him.
  • Women who speak up risk being called "hysterical." The qualities of being persistent and dogged in pursuit of answers underwent a suspicious transformation in the minds of some who watched Harris' questions. On CNN, former Donald Trump campaign adviser Jason Miller said that Harris was "hysterical" and "shouting" during the hearings. You can watch the videos below to judge for yourself, or I'll save you the time: no shouting took place, by any of the participants. Attempts to silence or smear women speakers by calling them hysterical have a long history, but thankfully CNN analyst Kirsten Powers pointed out to Miller that it was, well, a little strange that he was singling out Harris for this label.
  • Women who speak up may be called "incompetent." Senators typically don't ask great questions at these hearings, preferring to give their own speeches in lieu of seeking answers. But as a former prosecutor, Harris is in fact very good at this type of questioning, which is necessary to establishing essential facts, timelines and documentation--just the kinds of things that you would think would be the aims of an investigatory hearing. Instead, Burr tried at the start of the Sessions hearing to get Harris to back down from this competent handling, by framing her style of inquiry as "taking political or partisan shots."
Harris went to straight to social media after the Sessions hearing, to request answers from the attorney general again, and to launch a new fundraising campaign for her fellow women legislators in response to her treatment.

The campaign's slogan? "The women of the United States Senate will not be silenced when seeking the truth."

Video of Harris at the two hearings is here:

 


(This Famous Speech Friday post was contributed by freelance writer Becky Ham)

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Tuesday, December 26, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Arianna Huffington at the Uber all-hands

(Editor' s note: No, it's not Friday, but the hiatus did not let me publish this key speaking moment of 2017, so I'm using the last week of the year to catch up.)

The all-hands meeting in corporate life is no one's favorite venue as a speaker. Rarely is it about giving everyone a car and a year off; more often, it's an effort to deliver and explain bad news, or to start fixing a company-wide problem. And so it was for the ride-sharing behemoth Uber in June. Beset by problems that ranged from sexual harassment accusations to cities revoking its licenses, the company had commissioned an independent report that gave it numerous prescriptions for fixing its sexist culture, and the June meeting was meant to address those with employees.

So it was not a small moment when Uber board member Arianna Huffington, CEO of Thrive Global and founder of the Huffington Post announced that one of those steps would involve appointment another woman, Wan Ling Martello of Nestle Global, to the board--a step that would make women 25% of the board's makeup. At this point, Huffington was the lone woman on the board. The announcement came 7 minutes into the all hands meeting, a moment when management is usually working hard to set the tone for the rest of the session. Here's a transcript of what happened as Huffington was explaining the decision, and her fellow board member David Bonderman of TPG Capital, decided a little mansplaining was in order:
Huffington: There's a lot of data that shows that when there's one woman on the board it's much more likely there will be a second woman on the board.
Bonderman: Actually, what it shows is that it's much more likely to be more talking. 
Huffington: Ohhh. Come on, David. 
People in the room were "aghast," according to one report. Mansplaining often begins with just such an interruption, and the myth that women talk too much is a centuries-old trope used to shut women up--after all, if you're told you talk too much, that's a typical response. The comments were leaked almost immediately, and Bonderman later apologized and then resigned from the board.

Writing in the Washington Post, Christie Emba lays out the substantive issue behind the sexism of saying women talk too much in the workplace:
At Uber, for example, more “talking” would be an uncontestable good. A lack of communication is a major reason the company has wound up in a public crisis. From its founding, the dysfunctional start-up had poorly articulated policies and provided little supervision and few ways for workers to take their concerns up the food chain. Former employee Susan J. Fowler had to turn to a public blog to report sexual harassment. 
Perhaps more dialogue in the early stages would have compelled Uber’s executives to recognize all that and adopt standard business best practices — things as basic as requiring receipts for reimbursement and as major as not turning a blind eye to harassment by “high-performing” employees — years ago. Having more women on its board in the earlier days (Huffington joined only last year) might have led the company to address the sexism in its culture before it spiraled out of control.
What can you learn from this famous, interrupted speech?
  •  Make clear sexist comments are not acceptable: Huffington might have done more, but in the moment--who was expecting a sexist remark at a meeting on sexism?--her rebuke at least made clear that the view was one a dinosaur might hold, and not appropriate.
  • Remember that your presence and voice are essential, no matter how outnumbered you may be as a woman. Both in this more public meeting and many private ones, Huffington was the lone female voice battling the culture. Imagine this meeting had there been no female board member. 
  • Audiences don't like sexist treatment of women speakers. Guess what? Here's another case where the audience objected immediately (and probably leaked audio of the exchange that fast, too). Audiences have helped back up beleaguered women speakers a lot this year, and I like that trend.
Leaked audio from the meeting is here, and the relevant part begins at the 6:40 mark.

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Monday, December 25, 2017

Losing my voice: About the blog hiatus

I announced on November 3 that this blog would be on hiatus until the end of the year. And in truth, I was planning to take a hiatus for the month of December, anyway. But starting back in August, I found myself in and out of the hospital, first with a mystery disease that couldn't be diagnosed; then a diagnosis of lymphoma, a type of blood cancer; and then, just as I was about to start treatment for, the cancer, I developed Guillain–Barré syndrome, which paralyzed my hands and feet and parts of my arms and legs. As part of the treatment for that, I was put on a breathing tube and later had a tracheotomy – two things that, at times, rendered me speechless and unable to use my voice. And since my hands are such a big part of creating my online voice, it made sense to silence the blog while they were inoperable. Even now, I'm using dictation software to write this post.

One of the great miracles about Guillain–Barré syndrome is that it is reversible, going back the way it came, so my hands and feet, which were the first to be affected, will be the last to recover. I can't tell you how grateful I am to be able to recover my actual speaking voice, and to have the prospect of recovering all my other functions, particularly my hands.

I'm currently in rehab, working on physical therapy and work projects, but I want to get the blog going for 2018. I'm going to publish a couple of Famous Speech Fridays that need to be reflected in 2017, so this week we will declare Tuesday and Wednesday to be honorary Fridays. I'm also going to publish our annual list of the most-read public speaking tips on the blog this year, and you may be surprised by what's included on that list. Finally, I'll share a look at the year in speaking for women, using some of this year's most prominent speeches and what they all have in common.

I'm sure will have some fits and starts getting the blog up and running again, and I appreciate your patience with that process. I'm looking forward to getting back to the very important discussion we're having worldwide about women's voices and their place in the world in the workplace. And I hope in the comments thread on this particular post so that you can share your thoughts about where you would like to see the blog go in 2018. Thanks as always for reading!


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Friday, November 3, 2017

A blog hiatus

I'm taking the rest of the year off as far as blogging is concerned.

After I took a blog and social-media hiatus in June, using a small portion of it to build up my queue of posts, I wrote, "I liked this catch-up approach so much I may try it again later this year."

Well, later has rolled around, and I'm taking another hiatus from now until the end of the year. I'll be back for the year-end roundup of the blog's most popular posts in the last week of the year, but otherwise won't be publishing. I'll be using some of the time to build great content for you in 2018.

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Thursday, November 2, 2017

5 easy, everyday ways to gently promote yourself as a public speaker

You already know that I advocate making sure your speeches and presentations are published--not just for the record, although that's important, particularly for women speakers. But there's more you can do to gently promote yourself as a speaker and get your next speaking gig. Here are five easy, everyday ways to do that:
  1. Your email signature: Add a line to your email signature with a link to the program for your upcoming speech (or just completed one) and share some quick perspective. Invite people to come see you, or to watch the video.
  2. Your "out of the office" message: Away on a speaking gig? Add it to your out-of-office message to let colleagues and clients know the details, and encourage them to follow it on social media.
  3. Your LinkedIn posts: Had a great reception from your recent audience? Spoke at a major conference? That's a great short update to your LinkedIn profile. Don't forget that you can add videos of your talks, and your SlideShare slides to that profile, too.
  4. Your other social channels: You can start a conversation with your audience ahead of or after your speech, update those who missed you in action, or just note the occasion for the record. Add a particularly good quote from your text, or share that video (see below).
  5. Your friend with a smartphone: No matter when or where you are speaking, recruit a pal to record it on her smartphone. That video can help you learn from the talk, as well as get future gigs--if you post it. Remember that conference organizers look for video to confirm whether you are a good speaker. The production values don't need to be Hollywood-quality...but if you can get a professional video from the organizers, do.
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Monday, October 30, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

I read a lot about women and public speaking, and post my finds first on The Eloquent Woman on Facebook. But I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. Here's what I've been reading lately:
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Friday, October 27, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Rep. Maxine Waters's "reclaiming my time"

In America, we started this year with a million women marching in Washington, DC, and yet more doing the same around the world. Now the same group behind the Women's March is convening a Women's Convention this weekend in Detroit, Michigan--and they're using a now-iconic line from U.S. Representative Maxine Waters as the theme, "Reclaiming my time."

The now-famous three-word phrase is part of the House of Representatives floor procedures, typically during a debate: "The gentleman who has yielded may at any time 'reclaim' his time and then the other Member must stop speaking and allow him to continue." But here, Waters was questioning a hearing witness, U.S. Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin, about why he had not responded to her and other members of Congress after a May 23 letter, and she didn't feel as if he was answering the question. Mnuchin objected, appealing to the committee chair, and noting that the chair had announced that Mnuchin, as a witness, was not to be interrupted.

"What he failed to tell you is that when you are on my time, I can reclaim it," Waters explained, and then asked again for the Treasury secretary to answer the question. Waters, who has served in Congress since 1991, used the rules to keep him from using up her time to speak with non-responsive answers. And as the secretary launched again into a long and not direct answer, Waters simply repeated, "Reclaiming my time. Reclaiming my time. Reclaiming my time," over and over--the implication being, "You're wasting my allotted time to speak, and I'm not having it." And her question never was answered. It's a great example of a common Washington tactic of obfuscating your non-answer by wrapping it in a lot of solid-sounding other details to one side of the point...and Waters saw right through it.

In the Washington Post, Christine Emba noted, "In a year studded with absurd examples of men interrupting their female colleagues, a dignified woman’s firm insistence on being heard and getting straight to business was a welcome and empowering surprise." The phrase was seized upon by women tired of mansplaining and interruptions, and took social media and traditional media coverage by storm. What can you learn from this famous speech?

  • Know the rules and procedures: You don't have to be working by House rules or Robert's Rules of Order, but it's important to know, going into your public speaking gig, what's allowed and what isn't--from you and from your audience and other speakers. The only way to use the rules to your advantage is to know them.
  • Repeat as needed: Waters kept it simple. She explained the rules to the witness, politely, and asked the question again. When he started another non-answer, she just repeated the phrase that was short and official--uttering "reclaiming my time" has actual meaning for how much time she has left to speak.
  • Stand up for your time to speak: Whether you're on a panel or get interrupted while speaking in a meeting, this is a great phrase to add to your back-pocket arsenal. Whatever you do, don't let others derail the full amount of time you should be speaking.
Watch the video of the short exchange below.


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Thursday, October 26, 2017

11 things you can do with a pause in your speech

I sometimes think the simple pause is among the most overlooked yet versatile tools in the public speaking arsenal. Short and silent, it's easy to overlook.

Pauses, if chosen and used wisely, can add much to your next speech, talk, or presentation. Here are 11 things you can do with a pause in your speech. How many have you tried?
  1. Recall what you want to say, without blurting out "I forgot..." and breaking your and the audience's concentration.
  2. Let us hear your lists and sentences. A brief one-beat pause every time your script has a comma between items in a list, and a two-beat pause when there's a hard stop to a sentence, will slow you down a little and let us hear what you are saying.
  3. Replace an um or a word you overuse. There is nothing wrong with the totally normal um, but if you are trying to avoid using it too frequently, try a pause and a mental, not verbal, um. Ditto any word your listeners have pointed out is overused in your presentations.
  4. Let your applause finish. If your talk is being recorded, this helps make sure your next line will be captured without claps drowning it out.
  5. Ditto the audience's laughs. If you've landed a successful bit of humor and you get laughs, a pause lets them finish before you launch into the next bit.
  6. Signal a switch in tone, topic, or direction. Pausing between two disparate parts of your talk can tell the audience something new is next.
  7. Conquer dry mouth by gently biting your tongue a time or two to produce saliva. Try it--it's a tip from operatic soprano Luciano Pavarotti, which I got from a makeup artist who heard him sharing it.
  8. Add emphasis. A pause before...during...or after something you wish to emphasize can be a powerful verbal tool in a talk. Try pauses at different intervals and plan them during your practice, not on the fly.
  9. Stop yourself from crying. Shut your mouth--so you don't take in too much air and prompt a sob--and breath through your nose, and wait. If your talk is on an emotional topic, the audience will understand the pause, and they'll be with you.
  10. Give the other person a break in the action (yours) so they can talk. If you rush to fill all available space--particularly in Q&A or in a conversation or negotiation--you'll never find out what the other person has to say. Pausing lets them get a word in edgewise. This is especially important in media interviews, but also when you are conversing with someone for whom your language is their second language--they need pauses to think and frame a response.
  11. Start a thoughtful response to a question. There's a three-part formula to answering questions: Pause. Answer. Stop. The pause allows you to hear the complete question, rather than make assumptions before the questioner is done speaking, and buys you time to formulate an answer.
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Monday, October 23, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

I read a lot about women and public speaking, and post my finds first on The Eloquent Woman on Facebook. But I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. Here's what I've been reading lately:
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Friday, October 20, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Anita Sarkeesian tackles trolls at VidCon

You've read--here and elsewhere--about women  getting harassed on panels at conferences, particularly in the tech space. But if you haven't experienced what that looks and feels like at a real conference panel, it can be hard to imagine.

So let's use this VidCon panel from June that featured media and gaming critic Anita Sarkeesian, one of the most trolled women speakers on the planet. Sarkeesian spoke graphically about her harassment in a TED talk in 2013, but this panel offers a real example, captured in this article. And in this case, Sarkeesian called out her trolls:
The panel's first question drops. It’s about why feminism — online and in games — is an issue worthy of discussion. 
Sarkeesian notes Benjamin's presence and begins speaking. 
"If you Google my name on YouTube you get shitheads like this dude who are making these dumb-assed videos," she says. "They just say the same shit over and over again. I hate to give you attention because you're a garbage human. These dudes just making endless videos that go after every feminist over and over again is a part of the issue of why we have to have these conversations."
And to help you picture what Sarkeesian was seeing, here's what one of the harassers said in the article about how they set up their intimidation effort:
 "We carefully organized this so that on one side of the audience we would all make up the top three rows,” he says. “We would all be sitting there filming it," he adds, before naming several allies....It was such an adrenaline high to be there in the situation, to shit-post, in this trolling kind of way." He goes on to claim there was "no malice" in their actions and that it was “playful.”
Later, asked about the panel and calling out the harassers, Sarkeesian said, "As women, we're always told not to engage, not to 'stoke the fire,' and that forces us into silence, it forces us to be quiet in the face of harassment. That silence helps perpetuate a culture in which harassment is permissible or even accepted as 'normal.' And so I think that for some women who understand what I’ve been through or who have been through it themselves, it was cathartic to see me not stay silent, to see me call him out directly like that, to acknowledge in front of all those people what he’s done."

What can you learn from this panel from hell?
  • It's important to show up and speak, anyway: I know a lot of women who just avoid speaking gigs due to this phenomenon of trolls in the audience. Sarkeesian gets trolled more than most, but she continues to show up and call out the bad behavior. It's a good model for you to follow to take back control of your speaking opportunities.
  • Call them out directly: That wording is so important psychologically. Instead of responding with general complaints about harassment, get specific and direct. Don't use euphemisms. Call a troll a troll, and use your microphone and platform. Yes, that takes up time from your planned message, but it's important. As Sarkeesian said, "it was cathartic to see me not stay silent, to see me call him out directly like that, to acknowledge in front of all those people what he’s done." If it's the same guy or guys every time, borrow one of my all-time-favorite lines from Ronald Reagan: "there you go again." 
  • Know and work the conference code of conduct, and security: If you expect this to happen, ask for a conference organizer and security to be present for your session to witness any infraction of the code. Be sure you know the code of conduct, and whom to call. And refusing to speak at conferences without codes also is a good start, though a code is no guarantee of good behavior. Also consider having your colleagues help out by making their own video documentation if need be, and let them know what to watch for.
RealBeal made this video with her own commentary after witnessing the panel from the front row. It's a good reminder that these practices are bad for the audience as well as the speakers:


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Thursday, October 19, 2017

Let it go: How to tell when your public speaking script should be frozen

When I'm coaching speakers who are preparing and then memorizing a script for a talk--often a talk in the style of TED--we invest a lot of time on the script early in the process. We discuss concepts, go through drafts, reorganize, restate, revise. And then we do it again, as much as is needed to make the talk work for both speaker and audience. By the time we're done, that talk is like a polished jewel. So how do I keep the speaker from revising it into oblivion, right up until the last minute?

I declare the script "frozen."

By that I mean no more major revisions, a key part of the process for the speaker who wants to have a prayer of knowing her talk when the time comes to deliver it. It's the opposite of the speaker who makes lots of tweaks and changes, right up until the moment of delivery. That keeps moving the goal posts on your goal of memorizing the talk, and even makes delivery with notes difficult.

Declaring your script frozen, and keeping it that way, takes a lot of self-control. But neither freezing the script, nor memorization, are perfect processes. So we allow for a couple of types of changes:
  • Where you repeatedly stumble, make a change in the script, either omitting or replacing the word or words that are giving you trouble; and
  • Where you repeatedly forget a word, group of words, or sentence, do the same: omit or replace.
Other than that, however, work on memorizing what you have so carefully crafted.

Engineer Lucy Rogers shared with this blog her experience experimenting a bit too much with when she froze her speech: "I froze [my script] on the Tuesday, before giving it on the Thursday...I wasn’t word perfect. I changed the first line and I missed out some of the jokes...Note to self: freeze the speech longer in advance to give yourself chance to learn it."

If you're still tempted to make change after change, it's a good opportunity to pull back and ask yourself why you're anxious about this speech. Too many changes can be a signal that you're in over-prepare mode. Take the time to work on your anxiety before the speech, rather than take it out on your script.

(Disney press kit image from the movie Frozen)

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Tuesday, October 17, 2017

10 lessons,10 years into blogging The Eloquent Woman

You weren't looking, and apparently neither was I, but Monday last week was the 10th anniversary of this blog, The Eloquent Woman. I often miss my blogs' anniversaries, but managed to catch this one before it was quite past. And it prompted me to think about some lessons I've learned blogging about women and public speaking over the last (gulp) decade:
  1. Readers start things: It was a client's experience ("your presentations aren't sexy enough") that got me curious about gender issues in public speaking--and sure enough, I found there was plenty to sustain a blog, from research to daily issues. Readers suggested our Famous Speech Friday series and scores of posts on public speaking. I'm forever grateful for these core contributions.
  2. Readers help me find things: I can't thank enough the readers worldwide who send me pointers to speeches that catch their attention; offer to translate non-English speeches; share their experiences; or send me reference materials I wouldn't otherwise find. You've expanded the range and depth of the blog in this way.
  3. Keeping one focus is key: Speeches are incendiary things, and so are speakers. But on this blog, I don't choose speakers or speeches for political or other issues, even though I'm often accused of doing so. If I get political about anything on this blog, it's about how women are silenced. 
  4. That whole 'be the change you want to see' thing works. I was having trouble finding speeches by women to use as examples with my coaching clients. That started me on a path to learn that women have, over the course of history, been more banned from speaking than encouraged to do it...and that, even today, we do a poor job of preserving their talks. Big lists of "top speeches of the century" had so few women's speeches, they were easy to miss. That's why I created the weekly Famous Speech Friday posts, which look at all sorts of speeches by women, and began to collect them in The Eloquent Woman Index of Famous Speeches by Women, now nearing 300 speeches by women past and present. 
  5. It's great to share my approach to coaching with you, which has evolved over the years. When I hear from a prospective client who's done a deep dive on the blog, I can tell. Often, when I ask, "What do you need to know about me?" they say, "I already know all I need to know," and that's great for a speaker coach to hear.
  6. We can't have enough examples of women speaking. Once I started the blog, I heard from many speechwriters and speaker coaches also looking for examples of women speakers, as one put it, "more recent than Eleanor Roosevelt." I'm so pleased that speeches from the Index have been distributed by the Girl Scouts of America, professors, teachers, coaches ,and speechwriters, with their troops, classes, and clients.
  7. Putting women speakers forward means getting pushback from time to time. I've had male speechwriters tell me "but these speeches just aren't very good" or "I don't see any really great speeches there," and I've been accused of doing all sorts of subversive things with the speeches I choose. That just tells me how uncomfortable and unused we are to hearing and featuring women's voices. The cure for all this? Persistence.
  8. The variety matters to me. From the start, I wanted to feature not just stentorian keynote speeches in the male speaking style, but all sorts of public speech by women: testimony, PowerPoint presentations, interviews, short remarks, extemporaneous wonders, and more. I wanted women featured from all periods of history possible, all over the globe, all types of professions, all ages, all races. We're not quite there yet, but making strides. That variety of voices and types of speech matters, not just to me, but to readers looking for examples.
  9. Regrets? The missing speeches. There are famous speeches by women that I know about, but can't find, because they weren't preserved, or the preserved copies just aren't accessible for legal, technological, or other reasons. And that's not just true of speeches from distant history, but from some transitional periods like the 1960s and 70s, when broadcast recordings weren't archival. Other speeches, like Rosa Parks's speeches, were tied up by legal disputes for decades (they're now in the Library of Congress). It's a sometimes inadvertent silencer of women that has me wishing I could find and share them all.
  10. No, it doesn't feel like 10 years. This blog's a big part of every day for me, but often, I feel like I'm just getting started. And I learn as much from putting this together as you may from reading it. A decade also has shaped my perspective on women and speaking into something far more complex and, I hope, sophisticated--something that can't happen, except over time.
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Monday, October 16, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

I read a lot about women and public speaking, and post my finds first on The Eloquent Woman on Facebook. But I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. Here's what I've been reading lately:
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Friday, October 13, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: Theresa May's interrupted speech

We've had a cascade of prominent women speakers being interrupted this year--and that's not a mistake--but UK Prime Minister Theresa May's speech at the Conservative Party conference seems to have been a big, juicy target for a grand interruption.

This was the kind of interruption planned well in advance, and carried out early in her remarks. Why? I can think of a few reasons:

  • for optimal visual treatment, so that it would play well on video and television
  • to start silencing her message early
  • for maximum disruption during the speech, enabling a mass media and social media frenzy, and
  • to force a discussion about whether her supposed poor performance during a high-profile speech indicated that she should step down as Prime Minister. 
Call it interruption as coup attempt, if you will. That's certainly what it looked like to me.

The grand interruption was done by a known "prankster," an innocent-sounding  moniker for something with such dire consequences. That became part of the spin on this incident picked up by the media. Why not heckler or interrupter? He attempted to hand May a large-format (aka suitable for cameras) British version of a "pink slip," indicating termination of employment, with the comment, "Boris [Johnson, her foreign secretary and sometime rival for the top job] asked me to give you this."

The interruption took advantage of the fact that May was already nearly hoarse with a bad cold, not helped by having had given dozens of media interviews, as you do when you're the prime minister at a party conference. The speech itself, seen as a chance to stabilize a shaky hold on power, was long--it runs to 23 pages as prepared for delivery, which makes it about an hour in length. That's ambitious for any speaker, let alone one with a bad cold going on. But the combination meant the rest of her speech was marked by sniffles, people handing her cough drops, and sometimes starting applause to give her time to recover her voice. When the lettering on the stage set behind her started to fall apart, it was just part of the larger failure metaphor that had already begun.

We've looked at other May speeches here on the blog, and there's no question that she can be a forceful and effective speaker, despite efforts to dub her "Maybot" as a mocking of her speaking style. And you may recall our analysis, done when she and Hillary Clinton were both cabinet secretaries, that we seem to spend more time talking about distractions and drowning out their messages when they are asking for something like higher public office, or here, renewed support in a current top role. So the interruption laying the groundwork for a possible coup attempt didn't surprise me in the least.

Nor did the ridiculous sexist piling on that began almost instantaneously, another sign of the very planned nature of this grand interruption. She was mocked. Words in the speech echoed those in a speech from the television show The West Wing, which speechwriters are perhaps too prone to watch on repeat. It was reported that she left the stage and went to weep in the arms of her husband, and her husband was named on the pink slip in a reference to asking him about their taxes, both sexist tropes. "Poor Theresa May" was a frequent characterization, often from those who oppose her political views. Her supposed imminent resignation had to be denied throughout the day as coup-planners and rivals emerged with biting comments. And the hyperbolic Piers Morgan dubbed it the biggest speech fiasco in political history; I challenge readers to send me real examples of that, but don't think this qualifies for anything but nastiest coup attempt.

Because of course, what this interruption did was to take her message away and silence her. It's about the coup and about silencing, not about her.

Laying aside politics and the fact that you are not, perhaps, a prime minister yourself yet, what can you learn from this famous speech?

  • It never hurts to anticipate a heckler and how to handle it: You don't need to be famous to be trolled as a woman speaker, and when in doubt, you can always use my all-time favorite debate line from Ronald Reagan: "there you go again." In this case, as the comedian who pulled off the interruption is famous for doing them to others, it would have been apt and dismissive. I'll add it's also nigh unto impossible to pull such a thing off without having thought about it in advance, so allow some prep time for just this unfortunate purpose. You'll feel and look stronger in response if it does come up.
  • Barrelling through to the end is an unfortunate measure of the speaker: This is especially true when you're the prime minister, but in general, we put a lot of unfair pressure on speakers with these unwritten rules along the lines of "the show must go on." The best you can do is know that in advance, and again, plan around it, even down to having something to say to indicate that you'll keep going if they'll settle down and listen.
  • If you're facing even a small coup attempt, some back-pocket lines and humor may help. A famous option is writer Mark Twain's "reports of my death are greatly exaggerated."
By the end of the new cycle, coup attempters were proudly outing themselves and reports began to signal admiration for May's ability to get through the experience, despite the difficulties. But the damage may have been done. 

In full: Theresa May's speech to conference

Changes to the housing and energy markets were among the key announcements in a conference speech which was interrupted by a prankster and the PM struggling not to lose her voice.

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Thursday, October 12, 2017

Getting your audience physically involved in a speech or presentation

Back when the U.S. launched its war with Iraq, I was working for a nonprofit whose conference was coming up. Our board president needed to address a huge group of members, and wanted--without being too political--to somehow acknowledge the conflict, which had just begun and was much on people's minds. So I suggested a simple exercise: She could ask audience members to rise if they had different connections to the conflict: If they had served in the armed forces...had a relative who had served, or one serving now...worked for a company supplying the armed services...and so on.

It was a quiet and effective way to reflect what was already in the room and to acknowledge a contribution members were making in their personal lives, and really hit the mark. Because she asked them to stand and remain standing, by the end of the series, a majority of the room was on its feet, showing everyone the scope of how the war affected the group. And standing was a more visible acknowledgement than asking for a show of hands, and more involving.

I wish more speakers would do things to involve the audience physically in their talks. For starters, it keeps their attention focused. But there's another secret advantage to this tactic: Human brains are wired for synchronicity, and for imitating others' movements. So your audience is pre-disposed to cooperate when you ask them to participate as a group in this way.

Here are some performances and a commercial that might give you some ideas for what you can do to get an audience physically involved. Remember, these are *group* actions. You don't want to single people out, but get the whole room participating.
  1. Play the audience like an instrument: Musician Bobby McFerrin, at the World Science Festival, demonstrates how to make music using just the voices in the crowd, managing to conduct them and singing the topline melody himself. As he points out in the panel discussion following, it works all over the world, with every kind of audience. There's a link at the end to a longer discussion of what this has to do with science.
  2. Conduct the audience in singing and dancing--in their seats:  Tutu's "public waltz" gets the audience started with swaying, then arm movements that get larger and larger, then singing. It's a fantastic mix of movement and music that gets the whole audience involved (and here, you get the stage view, which includes some people moving asynchronously, but hey). A fun exercise that must have energized this crowd.
  3. Use the movement to show the crowd what it has in common: Just as my board president did, you can use physical movement to bring the crowd together in surprising ways. A great example is a commercial from TV2 Denmark on "All that we share," in which people are asked to group themselves by how they most commonly describe themselves, then asked to move into new groups based on different criteria, qualities they have in common. This wouldn't be too difficult to recreate, particularly if you are addressing a membership group or your entire organization.


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Monday, October 9, 2017

The Eloquent Woman's weekly speaker toolkit

I read a lot about women and public speaking, and post my finds first on The Eloquent Woman on Facebook. But I always collect them here for you on Mondays as well. Here's what I've been reading lately:
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Friday, October 6, 2017

Famous Speech Friday: San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulín Cruz: "We Are Dying Here"

After wading through floodwaters when Hurricane Maria hit Puerto Rico, San Juan Mayor Carmen Yulín Cruz ended up knee-deep in a tweet storm by U.S. President Donald Trump. The president accused Cruz of "poor leadership" and acting "nasty" after she delivered a blunt assessment of the hurricane recovery efforts led by his administration.

"We are dying here," she said simply in her short speech to the media, delivered in a t-shirt and boots in front of a pallet of privately-donated supplies, "and I cannot fathom the thought that the greatest nation in the world cannot figure out the logistics for a small island of 100 miles by 35 miles. So, mayday, we are in trouble."

Cruz made a direct plea to the president in her speech, asking him to "take charge" of the federal assistance plans for the island, after Cruz had listened to Acting Secretary of Homeland Security Elaine Duke describe the federal response as "a good news story." The situation on the ground was dire, Cruz insisted, and not under control.

In her speech, she says that she is "begging" for help. What Cruz got instead was a rebuke by the U.S. commander in chief for not being as "complimentary" toward him as she was at the start of the crisis. And while that particular take on the speech was not entirely unexpected from the president, the response to Cruz illustrates a common obstacle that women speakers face: women who express anger are seen as less credible than men who do the same.

Unfortunately, Cruz's speech illustrates a few other challenges as well:
  • "Sometimes you can't play nice." In a 2014 interview, Cruz said that "politics is a rough game, and sometimes as females we are taught that you have to play nice. Sometimes you can't play nice." Her speech was blunt and forceful and deliberate, in an attempt to rouse the federal government from what she perceived as bureaucratic sluggishness. By being straightforward and "mad as hell," as she put it, she knows she is breaking a taboo about how women are allowed to act as politicians. ("So I am done being polite. I am done being politically correct," she notes.) President Trump also attempted to shame Cruz for not conforming to the niceness expected of women in public by calling her "nasty," as he did to former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton during the 2016 presidential debates.
  • If your speech is emotional, its content may be dismissed. It's fair to say that this is an emotional speech, in both content and delivery. There's nothing wrong with that, and Cruz's words are consistent with being a first-hand witness to literal life-and-death crises unfolding in Puerto Rico. But the coverage of Cruz's speech has leaned heavily on describing it as "emotional" or "passionate" without engaging with the content of it. It makes it all too easy for people like political consultant Alex Castellanos to describe Cruz as "desperate" and a "panicky swimmer" rather than address whether her facts about the relief effort are correct. It also makes it easier for Treasury Secretary Steven Mnuchin to characterize the speech as "an attack" on the president, rather than a call for leadership and support.
  • You may need to put the focus back on the speech, and not the speaker. It would have been simple for Cruz to fall into a back-and-forth with the president after his tweets, making the story more about his outburst than conditions in Puerto Rico. But Cruz has maintained a remarkable single-mindedness about why she gave the speech. In nearly every interview and on her very active Twitter feed, Cruz repeats the same refrain: we have one goal here, saving lives. By keeping her focus on her constituents, Cruz has managed to wrest back her speech from a political scorekeeping narrative.
You can read a transcript of the speech here, and the video below contains most of the speech as well:



(Freelance writer Becky Ham contributed this Famous Speech Friday post)

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Thursday, October 5, 2017

Stop interrupting women speakers: Another episode

Kathryn Presner of Get Speaking! encourages women to get started in public speaking, particularly in tech, with web resources and workshops. And back in July, she reported on an episode at WordCamp Ottawa that sounds awfully familiar over here at The Eloquent Woman: A woman speaker being interrupted repeatedly during her talk, and an audience intervention to get it to stop.

That's similar to what was described in our post When the male moderator won't let the lone woman panelist speak. Here's what Presner saw--and stopped:
That afternoon, a woman was giving a lightning talk, with a short amount of time to present. Smack dab in the middle of her presentation, a man piped up to voice disagreement with one of the examples she was showing. Audience conversation started rolling from there, and I could see the speaker – who’d never presented at a WordCamp before – start to look a little flustered, as her talk became completely derailed. 
I was filled with rage. I’ve never done this before, but I had to say something. 
“Let’s let her finish her talk. She only has seven minutes left, and she can take Q&A after.” 
There was a small shocked silence. I’m not sure if I imagined it, but I might have heard a few murmurs of agreement. 
The speaker finished the rest of her talk without interruption, and then took questions after. 
Afterwards, a few people – including the speaker – thanked me for calling out the interrupter.
Presner offers good tips on setting expectations about interruption at the start of your presentation, something that many speakers don't think they need to do. But if there is no moderator or chair present and you are on your own, it's not only fine but helpful to say at the start, "I'm going to take all questions at the end of the presentation, so please hold your insights and questions until then." Then when someone interrupts, anyway, you can say, "Thanks, ask that again at the end, please," and keep going. You've got the floor and the mic. 

Keep in mind, too, as you can see in this video, that women are interrupted far more than men when they are speaking, and that mansplaining often begins with an interruption. All the more reason to announce to the whole audience your set of question rules first--so the audience can help you enforce them. And you can control the gender aspects of Q&A by announcing that you will call on a woman, then a man, then a woman, in turn. It's not only a good way to make sure women get a question in, but to balance a potential onslaught of mansplainers. Yes, you need to be speaking at a gender-balanced conference but try this...it really helps.

And you bold audience members who actually want to hear the speaker who's speaking? Speak up yourselves and insist on it, and put that in your feedback forms to let the conference organizers know they may need moderators or other rules on Q&A.

(Creative Commons licensed photo by Capital Ideas Edmonton)

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